he key to having a wonderful relationship and family life, as recently shared by a famous Indonesian holistic healer, are very simple things which ironically are often overlooked in today's modern society.

Firstly, it is the continuous undivided attention. In many households in metropolitan cities, every day is usually filled with normal busy schedules and almost endless streams of information hitting the minds. Hence the simple act of giving proper attention alone is often quite a challenge.

Secondly, it is one's ability to give as well as receive love and compassion. When one is in extreme imbalance in just one side, suffering is sure to occur. e.g. when one gives all the time without receiving, then the relationship is doomed. The same applies to the reverse.

Thirdly, it is the ability to listen wholeheartedly. In daily life there are often times when we wish to convey several points across to other people but end up censoring many parts of the message. These end up in our memory as junk which continues to build up and makes one yearn to talk them out to friends in order to feel short-term relief.

In relation to the above, last but not least, we need total complete honesty. Complete and directly understandable honest confessions, while at times may bring out troubles, actually can save one from accumulating many small hidden problems which one day will result in nuclear explosions.